We’ve been engaged for almost a year (April). I keep seeing the advertising for the Wonderful Wedding Show here in Winnipeg on January 18th and 19th , wondering if I should attend or not. I should be over the moon with wedding planning, reviewing bridal magazines, thinking about photographers, and attending the wedding show, right?
As I sit and think about it, I’m just kind of ‘meh’ about it all. However, there are a couple of factors that are affecting my sense of urgency towards my “special day”!
My mom passed away…and ever since then I’ve lost my wedding planning mojo. When we found out she was terminal we were trying to fast-track the wedding so she could be there but alas, it didn’t work out that way. Mom said she just wanted us to have the wedding WE want even though she knew she wouldn’t be attending, and that is what is most important. It’s constantly in my brain, sometimes overwhelmingly so. She should be with me as I pick my dress, as we pick venues etc. I know she’s guiding my decisions though and I take solace in that.
My cousin also got engaged near the end of 2013. At the family Christmas gathering there were exuberant talks of a double wedding in the spring of 2015 (she also wants to have a destination wedding). Everyone is excited. That was all fine and good but as the holidays have passed and we’ve actually had time to think about it, we could see quite a few issues logistically.
We realized that our priorities for our wedding will never be the same as anyone else’s. We don’t want the undue pressure to pick the same week/time so that everyone in the family can attend. We don’t want to agree to a resort or location that wasn’t one of our top choices. We want our wedding to be about us and only us, period.
That is exactly what it will be. Me and my honey, all lovey dovey with our kiddies, family and close friends to share it all with us!
We will take our time. We will save our money and DO IT UP! We will research photographers at our leisure. We will research resorts and locations when we’re ready. I will take my sister, my daughters and my girlfriends on a weekend spree of our own “Say Yes to the Dress” craziness! We will have fun. We know that the people that are supposed to be at our wedding will be there and we will be surrounded by love.
And you KNOW I’m gonna blog about it 😉